God's timing is best and yes it does hurt when you see your family self destructing. I know. But I think it is in James where he says the trails we go through build up our faith. I always pray before family gatherings because of the tension etc that would be there. On the last meeting my brother called me rubbish as I was leaving. Then I don't know what happened he came up and hugged me, it is years since he hugged me.