In most western countries it as already, with abortion as a pressing issue being settled decades ago . But for the reasonable voices to be heard, compromise on both sides must be accepted. The extreme positions must be abandoned. The notion that a woman has the comply right to an abortion for any reason right up to the point of birth, is not reasonable. Neither is the notion that there is a person with full human rights present in the womb from the moment of conception.
Your description fits both sides. "Their personal desires will always trump facts, reasonable argument, and reasonable conclusions. When that happens all you will get in response to facts and reasonable argument is confirmation bias spin. And that is what people do when they find facts and reason to be inconvenient to their personal desires. Their personal desires always trump facts which do not suit them and they resort to confirmation bias spin." Posts reflecting exactly these tendencies can be found here supporting both the Pro- choice and the Pro-life arguments. The real failure, in my view, is the unwillingness to accept that a reasonable and sincere person can honestly take a view that is contrary to ones own. Yet this is the case. There are sincere and honest people on both sides. To solve the controversy, perhaps those sincere and honest voices need to turn on the extremists on their own side of the fence, and get them to pipe down so that reasonable dialogue can commence.