Crazy Ivan
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I'm not for one moment suggesting that genuine gender dysphoria is triggered by bullying, though there may be an element of the disconnect between what society expects and what the individual feels, that is in play. It is the distress that the illness, not the gender divergence. Homosexuality is not an illness, though it may lead to an increased susceptibility to illness. Neither is gender divergence. Ok, it increases risk and vulnerability, but that doesn't make it an illness. We used to treat thalidomide children with prosthetics that made them look more normal, but we're useless functionally. The aim was to reduce stigma and allow those with deformed limbs to be accepted, even if their practical lives were made worse. Look around you now. It's a common sight to see blades instead of artificial feet, or practical prosthetics that do the job of hands rather than mimicking normal ones. That's what's happening now to the Trans community. Instead of covering up, they are there to be seen, and their lives are better for it. And frankly, so are ours. There's no need for pejorative labels, which is what mental illness is. Disability, or abnormality is not the same thing as illness. People with dwarfism for example, are still people who can achieve in every kind of endeavour. We wouldn't dream of saying what a pity you aren't taller and giving them stilts to walk on. We make adjustments, and so we should for the gender divergent. It's not as if it's a demanding adjustment. We just need to learn a new name and pronoun set. Calling this accepting a lie, is like saying that short people are really tall.
I like some of what you're saying here, and I agree that people should be as they are - so if a boy wishes to present himself as a girl, I mean, he has the right to do that, and mistreatment of any kind is uncalled for and is unhelpful (at best).
But...
(1) A boy thinking he's a girl.....doesn't ACTUALLY make him a girl. Just like the anorexic thinking she's fat doesn't make her actually fat, and just as the body dysmorphic thinking he has a misshapen nose doesn't actually make his nose misshapen. We recognize that there is a disconnect between the thinking and the physical reality, and we rightly say that the reason for the disconnect is MENTAL, not physical. If it's harmless, and doesn't impair the person in any way, we don't label it a mental ILLNESS, but it's still a problem with the person's THINKING, not an actual problem with their physical body.
(2) I agree that it is wrong for the term "mental illness" to be used as a pejorative. I have long advocated on this forum (and even started a thread on this a while back) advocating for people who have mental disorders or mental illnesses or mental conditions, and calling on society to stop stigmatizing people who have them. It's tragic. That being said, it's NOT automatically pejorative to correctly point out that a person may have a mental illness. It's not dehumanizing a person, and it's not a pejorative, to tell someone with acute body dysmorphia that they have a mental disorder. It's an accurate diagnosis. Same thing is true of a person with gender dysphoria.
(3) I'm glad you agree that bullying (which I use as shorthand for all sorts of mistreatment) isn't the CAUSE of a person's gender dysphoria. That's INTERNAL in nature. And by definition, gender dysphoria is when transgender identity comes with distress, anxiety, suicidal thoughts, etc. And that IS a mental illness. So the suicidal ideation comes not from bullying (contrary to what backup routinely claims), but from the person's gender dysphoria itself, which may be *exacerbated* by - but is not *caused* by - bullying.
Also, it's interesting. If you look up treatments for, say, body dysmorphia, they talk about counseling and medication and such.
"Treatment for BDD may include talk therapy or medicines. The best treatment is probably a combination of the two. Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is the most effective talk therapy. In CBT, you work with a mental health professional to replace negative thoughts and thought patterns with positive thoughts." - from: https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/conditions-and-diseases/body-dysmorphic-disorder
So the treatment for body dysmorphia is to deal with the person's brain chemistry (through medication), in order to bring the brain back in line with physical reality, and through replacing negative thoughts with positive ones. That is, "Your nose ISN'T misshapen." (that's obviously an oversimplification)
But the treatment for gender dysphoria is: AFFIRM the person's warped views (warped in that they are the opposite of objective physical reality) of themselves, encourage them to "be themselves" and to even go through body changes to adapt their physical reality with their warped views.
Why, in every other case where a mental illness exists, is the goal of treatment to re-adjust the person's perceptions and mental state, when for gender dysphoria, the goal of treatment is to re-adjust the person's physical body, rather than the person's perceptions and mental state?
Doesn't that seem....way, way off to you?