I agree with you 100%. But, please understand, that not everything taught in Church is doctrine.
Some youth teachers blow off the manual and have taught sensational beliefs based on quotes to keep the the youth engaged, thinking that they need to entertain them, and whatever cost.
And the parents treated the Church like a public school system. So memes printed off by Deseret Book became the teaching tools than the actual scriptures.
I remember being that youth, and at times, I remember (shamefully) being that teacher.
It is, IMO, getting the gospel the completely backwards. Literally “anti-mormon” (not to mention “anti-Christian”) in every sense of the word.
It’s not much different than why things like “word of faith” movements exist in Christianity.
Thanks to the Internet, and forums like this, it forced faithful members (past their youth), to really get to the heart of what they believed and why. Others, who saw and felt the distasteful pressure of Mormon culture (in Utah anyway) left the Church when they realized Jesus can actually be found in the Bible without the aid of the Book of Mormon (Go figure) and had no qualms leaving the church.
IMO - That’s why people who left the church balk at people like me thinking I’m whitewashing Mormonism into mainstream Christianity. I can totally see their viewpoint.
But I think that’s why the Church changed the approach, and started preaching spiritual self-reliance, and progressively moved the Church to “home centered, church supported”, and centered the cirriculum to the scriptures in the “Come Follow Me” program. It’s why the Church doesn’t like to be called “Mormon”, because (as the Sunstone Education Foundation taught) there’s more than one-way to ‘Mormon’.
As the Church moves forward, people that my experience will completely fade out, and “anti-Mormonism” will sound like Greek to many members of the Church.
(See also - “All things gather together”, Bednar -https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2018/10/gather-together-in-one-all-things-in-christ?lang=eng)