Nothing more than God is equally active assuring the damning of the reprobate as He is in saving the elect.It seems you are arguing the inequality is because the elect are given grace. If that is the case, I agree.
I am not familiar with this debate. In What sense are they claimed to be equal in the "equal ultimacy" claim?
I had heard of it but never gave it much thought until I heard a James White clip dealing with it. I just thought I would throw it out there and see what everyone else thought about it.