Do you mean me, or some other atheist? Because I don't think that. I think love is a human emotion, and it is difficult to figure out how any attribute of an infinite eternal, transcendant intelligence could have any correspondence to anything in the human limbic system. I think the whole issue of such a being having emotions makes no sense at all, and I regard the whole question of what a loving God would do as completely undecideable. However, I do think that some of the things that happen to people look like the exact opposite of anyone being shown love, and look more like persecution than anything else.Certainly this goes both ways.
Who gets to decide who is doing the "stretching."
I think the atheist is the one "stretching" love to mean "make everyone happy."
If you have a hypothetical entity defined as having property X, but it is obvious on inspection that one must change the definition of X in order to defend the existence of that entity, then it is reasonable to suggest that perhaps the problem is not the definition of X, but the existence of the hypothetical entity as characterized.Words are referents to ideas, and people have different ideas with the same word... no Christian claims God "loves" like the world defines love.