In your theology, everything has to be completely unconditional, or else it is "works". It doesn't allow room or flexibility for anything in the middle. The Bible isn't so rigid and inflexible. For example when the Bible says, "God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace unto the humble" (James 4:6; 1 Peter 5:5), do you honestly believe that being "humble" is some kind of a "work"? What kind of a twisted mindset is that, which considers "humility" some kind of a "work," or the means of "earning" something other? James says, "Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and he shall lift you up" (James 4:10). So you reckon James is teaching someone kind of a "works" based theology, in order to "earn" the privilege being "lifted up" by the Lord? What kind of strange mindset is that? The same applies to the other prerequisites for qualifying grace. "Obedience" to the commandments of God is not "works," it is just obedience. "Thou shalt not kill," "thou shalt not steal," "thou shalt not bear false witness," "thou shalt not commit adultery," "honour thy father and mother," etc. are not "works". You are not doing any "work" by not killing anybody. You would be doing a lot more "work" by going out and killing somebody, than by sitting at home and doing nothing. But you would be breaking God's commandments if you did. There is no salvation, grace, or blessing obtained from God without genuine and wholehearted repentance, which is another way of saying, keeping God’s commandments. To "repent" means to stop doing what one knows to be wrong, and start doing what one knows to be right. It means to stop breaking God's commandments, and start keeping them. That is not the same as "works," or "earning your own salvation". You may think that you are not a Calvinist, but whether you realize it or not, you have imbibed an awful lot of their false theological baggage.
My theology is Paul's theology
Eph. 2:8–10 —ESV
“For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God,
not a result of works, so that no one may boast.
For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.”
Rom. 4:16 —ESV
“¶ That is why it depends on faith, in order that the promise may rest on grace and be guaranteed to all his offspring—not only to the adherent of the law but also to the one who shares the faith of Abraham, who is the father of us all,”
Rom. 3:20–28 —ESV
“For by works of the law no human being will be justified in his sight, since through the law comes knowledge of sin.
¶ But now the righteousness of God has been manifested apart from the law, although the Law and the Prophets bear witness to it—
the righteousness of God through faith in Jesus Christ for all who believe. For there is no distinction:
for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,
and are justified by his grace as a gift, through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus,
whom God put forward as a propitiation by his blood, to be received by faith. This was to show God’s righteousness, because in his divine forbearance he had passed over former sins.
It was to show his righteousness at the present time, so that he might be just and the justifier of the one who has faith in Jesus.
¶ Then what becomes of our boasting? It is excluded. By what kind of law? By a law of works? No, but by the law of faith.
For we hold that one is justified by faith apart from works of the law.”
Rom. 4:4–5 —ESV
“Now to the one who works, his wages are not counted as a gift but as his due.
And to the one who does not work but believes in him who justifies the ungodly, his faith is counted as righteousness,”
you instead offer a system of merit which is works
And no James is not teaching works for humility is not a system of merit