What happened civic? You used to push Calvinism and now here you are arguing against it, so when do you think you will get your doctrines straight on this?
I am not a Calvinist nor a believer in Arminianism but I would have to disagree with your assessment of your passages above, for the Bible indeed teaches predestination and once elect always elect but the problem with these other interpretations, is that they fail to understand why God cannot save everyone but must let some perish in their own choice to sin while he saves others from that same choice to sin.
You might want to start getting a correct understanding of this by prayerfully reading and meditating on what God says to Israel in Isaiah 43:3 and what Paul is revealing in Romans 9:13-24 and especially what he says in verses 22-24.
Why did God have to give Egypt, Cush and Seba in order to turn Israel to himself in repentance?
If God had of extended equal mercy and grace unto all four of these peoples, would any of them have been saved at all Civic?
Read Romans 9, and especially verses 22-24, what does Paul reveal about this?
If God just asked us all human beings equally to repent and receive the gospel message, how many of us would be able to do this being totally depraved in our sins?
Man, I got this truth straight right from the start of my salvation, for I knew that it was God who led me to repentance and faith and that it had nothing to do with me at all.
Oh indeed I had to choose, but I only chose because God used every situation in my life experience and especially with other lost people to turn me around to make that choice.
Nevertheless, he doesn't do this for everyone and can't either and the reason why he can't isn't because of any flaw or weakness in himself but because of our depraved condition, for he uses the unchosen vessels to have an effect on those chosen in order to turn them around to himself in repentance and faith.