I am not a Calvinist! I am agreeing with your OP. Calvinists here would be outraged if you confused me as a Calvinist! LOL! I do not accept any of the theological premises of Calvinism, including T of 🌷 and all the rest.Unforutnately, that disagrees with total depravity which is the belief that NO one is good and NO one is righteous; (Rom. 3:11, Mk. 10:18). That's in your own theology. lol. So my neighbors are NOT better than anyone nor am I better than anyone else. It's also a gospel of WORKS rather than GRACE in God's sovereign election. Grace is UNMERITED FAVOR on people who DO NOT DESERVE IT which is the whole human race. (Rom. 11:32, Mk. 10:18, Rom. 3:11).
So Calvinists are now beginning to contradict their OWN theology which they have to do in order to believe in L.A. It is therefore unwise to engage in conversation with people who not only contradtc Scripture, they end up contradicting their OWN theology. They just engage in confusion and talk tangles.