I affirm belief is condition of salvation and repentance (change of mind) is necessity, and that God may desire that all would come to repentance and be saved, but see that as different issue from them having ability to do so, due to their fallen nature, on their own.
Question of course is what is the source of a Believers understanding and belief (and then trust).
I see "fair" as us equally all being dead an in Hell already, if that is what God as Creator, Owner, Ruler, and Judge should think and/or determine we deserve and is just, and any deaths, even if commanded or caused by Him, and one's fate in Eternity as being in the hands of a just, good, and loving God.
(I was on CARM before the shutdown and redo, I'm not a "drive-buyer" per say, but do like to keep things a bit minimal on my part, and I unusually hang out in other areas of CARM. I don't mind letting the conversation run between others on topics/threads I start. Thanks for the Welcome.)