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    My dog, Nina-Jet, was doing sort of ok for an elderly dog. She was on medication for arthritis, for incontinence, and for seizures. Then, the first week of August, she had a bleed in her right eye. The vet gave me eye drops and said it was possible that it would clear up, if not, he would send us to an animal eye specialist. It started to get better, then another bleed, and it was obvious she was having headaches from the added pressure. So surgery scheduled to remove the eye. I have seen several dogs with only one eye, and they seem to adjust fine. This Tuesday, was the surgery, and she came through ok. But Thursday, there was a neurological complication, as she could not walk or eat. She seemed to be having a mild seizure that would not resolve with her medication. We took her to the vet Friday and he said there was no way to tell for sure without an MRI, it could be a blood clot or it might be severe dizziness that could clear up in a few weeks. But since her dizziness prevented her from walking, eating etc, it became clear to me that we must say goodbye. It was a peaceful passing.

    We rescued her in June 2009, and the vet said she may have been 5 or 6 at that time, which made her 14. We had her DNA panel done several years ago, because we were so curious what breed she was. 100% pure Belgian Shepherd! She was a fine creature, bonded to me and I to her. I am so sad and anxious without her. With my previous dog, Ringo, I knew absolutely that it was time for him to go, but I still have haunting doubts about Nina-Jet, I keep thinking I could have done more. Many hot painful tears, as I recall her sweetness, her gentleness, her beauty in spirit.

    This hurts so bad. All I can do is endure each hour of each day. Trusting in God that I did the right thing at the right time.
    Cynthia...2 Witnesses knew the events of Damascus Road. Ananias & Judas, Acts 9. Reject Paul? U must reject Luke, Peter 2Pet3:15-18 and Mark, Peter's student. James/John are complicit as well as Matthew.

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    Originally posted by cynthia View Post
    My dog, Nina-Jet, was doing sort of ok for an elderly dog. She was on medication for arthritis, for incontinence, and for seizures. Then, the first week of August, she had a bleed in her right eye. The vet gave me eye drops and said it was possible that it would clear up, if not, he would send us to an animal eye specialist. It started to get better, then another bleed, and it was obvious she was having headaches from the added pressure. So surgery scheduled to remove the eye. I have seen several dogs with only one eye, and they seem to adjust fine. This Tuesday, was the surgery, and she came through ok. But Thursday, there was a neurological complication, as she could not walk or eat. She seemed to be having a mild seizure that would not resolve with her medication. We took her to the vet Friday and he said there was no way to tell for sure without an MRI, it could be a blood clot or it might be severe dizziness that could clear up in a few weeks. But since her dizziness prevented her from walking, eating etc, it became clear to me that we must say goodbye. It was a peaceful passing.

    We rescued her in June 2009, and the vet said she may have been 5 or 6 at that time, which made her 14. We had her DNA panel done several years ago, because we were so curious what breed she was. 100% pure Belgian Shepherd! She was a fine creature, bonded to me and I to her. I am so sad and anxious without her. With my previous dog, Ringo, I knew absolutely that it was time for him to go, but I still have haunting doubts about Nina-Jet, I keep thinking I could have done more. Many hot painful tears, as I recall her sweetness, her gentleness, her beauty in spirit.

    This hurts so bad. All I can do is endure each hour of each day. Trusting in God that I did the right thing at the right time.
    Hy Cynthia. So sorry about your dog. It's a very painful thing to go through the death of any pet. Never easy to put them down. But as Nina-Jet was up there in age, you probably did the right thing. It would have only meant more suffering for her.

    I have lost so many pets over the years and with each loss a part of your heart is gone. Time is a good healer. God is even better. I pray your pain will lessen with each passing day.

    God bless you..
    Learn to expect the impossible, expect the unusual, and expect the miraculous, because that is where God works.

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    • #3
      Originally posted by cynthia View Post
      My dog, Nina-Jet, was doing sort of ok for an elderly dog. She was on medication for arthritis, for incontinence, and for seizures. Then, the first week of August, she had a bleed in her right eye. The vet gave me eye drops and said it was possible that it would clear up, if not, he would send us to an animal eye specialist. It started to get better, then another bleed, and it was obvious she was having headaches from the added pressure. So surgery scheduled to remove the eye. I have seen several dogs with only one eye, and they seem to adjust fine. This Tuesday, was the surgery, and she came through ok. But Thursday, there was a neurological complication, as she could not walk or eat. She seemed to be having a mild seizure that would not resolve with her medication. We took her to the vet Friday and he said there was no way to tell for sure without an MRI, it could be a blood clot or it might be severe dizziness that could clear up in a few weeks. But since her dizziness prevented her from walking, eating etc, it became clear to me that we must say goodbye. It was a peaceful passing.

      We rescued her in June 2009, and the vet said she may have been 5 or 6 at that time, which made her 14. We had her DNA panel done several years ago, because we were so curious what breed she was. 100% pure Belgian Shepherd! She was a fine creature, bonded to me and I to her. I am so sad and anxious without her. With my previous dog, Ringo, I knew absolutely that it was time for him to go, but I still have haunting doubts about Nina-Jet, I keep thinking I could have done more. Many hot painful tears, as I recall her sweetness, her gentleness, her beauty in spirit.

      This hurts so bad. All I can do is endure each hour of each day. Trusting in God that I did the right thing at the right time.
      I'm sorry about the death of your dog. I've lost several dogs and cats over the years. I still miss them and the first to go was about 30 years ago. She was a great pet. I hope that when the time is right you will get another. You will still miss Nina-jet but you will love your new one.
      Mark 9:24 Lord, I believe; help thou mine unbelief.

      “Reason is a whore, the greatest enemy that faith has; it never comes to the aid of spiritual things,
      but more frequently than not struggles against the divine Word, treating with contempt all that emanates from God.” ― Martin Luther


      Muretus "Call no man worthless for whom Christ died!"

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      • #4
        Originally posted by Thekla View Post

        I'm sorry about the death of your dog. I've lost several dogs and cats over the years. I still miss them and the first to go was about 30 years ago. She was a great pet. I hope that when the time is right you will get another. You will still miss Nina-jet but you will love your new one.

        “Reason is a whore, the greatest enemy that faith has; it never comes to the aid of spiritual things,
        but more frequently than not struggles against the divine Word, treating with contempt all that emanates from God.” ¯ Martin Luther
        That quote by Martin Luther is very good. It has many applications for me, including this situation. Thank you. I need to keep the faith, my mind on the spiritual instead of letting doubts creep in.

        Cynthia...2 Witnesses knew the events of Damascus Road. Ananias & Judas, Acts 9. Reject Paul? U must reject Luke, Peter 2Pet3:15-18 and Mark, Peter's student. James/John are complicit as well as Matthew.

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        • #5
          So sorry for your loss. I have lost 2 dogs in the last few years and it is devastating. They are such wonderful friends. I didn't think I would want another dog after our last but now I have a big dog that brings me so much joy. You know God will replace your sadness with joy. You have been through a lot and He will continue to lift you up.
          gailee

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          • #6

            Day 14, 2 whole weeks without Nina-Jet. I am dealing with her absence a little better. I have to remind myself several times a day when I suddenly get anxious, a slight panicky feeling, that I have forgotten to do something vitally important. She had to take seizure meds 5 times a day; every 8 hours at 5am, 1pm and 9pm, for which I set alarms for myself. Then more seizure meds, arthritis meds and meds for slight incontinence every 12 hours, crushed and mixed in her food at 6:30 am and 6:30 pm. Then, I tried to take her for a walk once a day, usually at Lake Hefner, and make sure she piddles every few hours to reduce accidents in the house. Needless to say, my day was extremely structured around my concern for her to keep her healthy and happy, and not too bored. With this schedule out the window so suddenly, I am having to learn how to have a new way of living, establish new routines, a new schedule, without her life depending on me, and without her joyful company, as she followed me everywhere and looked up at me with unconditional love and beauty. I have had dogs since December 1998, 19 years.. There was a 2 year break in 1996-7 without a dog, after having a dog prior to that for 16 years. I am totally alone. Since I retired in 2010, she and I have been pals 24-7. Still aching, but teaching myself to distract my thoughts whenever she comes to mind.
            Cynthia...2 Witnesses knew the events of Damascus Road. Ananias & Judas, Acts 9. Reject Paul? U must reject Luke, Peter 2Pet3:15-18 and Mark, Peter's student. James/John are complicit as well as Matthew.

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            • #7
              Hi Cynthia, so very sorry for your lost of your dear dog. I also have lost several pets through the years.

              I would recommend that you think on the good times you had with Nina-Jet. I know it's not easy but thinking on the good times with them always helped me.
              It's important to have the right convictions, but deep convictions without divine fellowship turns us into mere zealots. If we hold the truths of the Gospel without spending time with the Giver of the Gospel, we'll lose the internal sweetness of our faith.
              Dr. David Jeremiah

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              • #8
                I did some errands this morning, and had to drive by the vet clinic where Nina-Jet's eye surgery took place. Today was the appointment that I was to bring her in to have the sutures removed from her eye socket, had she survived. (I previously canceled the follow-up when they called to confirm the appointment.)

                I cried all the way home, about a 10 mile trip.
                Cynthia...2 Witnesses knew the events of Damascus Road. Ananias & Judas, Acts 9. Reject Paul? U must reject Luke, Peter 2Pet3:15-18 and Mark, Peter's student. James/John are complicit as well as Matthew.

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                • #9
                  I know that was difficult and the memories overwhelmed you. But please do try to remember some good times with Nina-Jet whenever she comes to your mind. And also remember that she is no longer suffering. Some people believe we will see our pets in Heaven. A pastor wrote a book about this.... can't recall the name of the book though.
                  It's important to have the right convictions, but deep convictions without divine fellowship turns us into mere zealots. If we hold the truths of the Gospel without spending time with the Giver of the Gospel, we'll lose the internal sweetness of our faith.
                  Dr. David Jeremiah

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                  • #10
                    I know all about grief and recovery.

                    I do remember good times with my pet, and I am well aware she is no longer suffering, since that is the reason I had to put her down.

                    Nevertheless, grief takes time. It is expressed in milestone events, like giving away her food and donating her medicine, storing away her collar, leash, toys, mats and sweaters and raincoats etc. Like receiving her ashes, storing them out of sight until a time when I will one day part with them. I am collecting photos to make an album when I feel I can do that.

                    It is not unlike the stages of grief we go through when we loose a loved one. I just lost an aunt yesterday. She was the last of the generation previous to mine.

                    It takes time. I have lost 6 other pets over the years. This one was special because she helped me through breast cancer, and kept me company after I retired, we were together constantly. She was my camping companion, and I doubt I will be brave enough to camp alone without her. I am not wallowing in grief, I am acknowledging the pain of each stage.
                    Cynthia...2 Witnesses knew the events of Damascus Road. Ananias & Judas, Acts 9. Reject Paul? U must reject Luke, Peter 2Pet3:15-18 and Mark, Peter's student. James/John are complicit as well as Matthew.

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                    • #11
                      Dear Cynthia;

                      I want you to know that you are not alone.

                      Earlier this year, our beloved rescue dog, who was with us had to be put down, because of unexpected liver failure. There was no other way to save him.

                      My wife and I carried him over in a bag to a creek area nearby with trees. I dug a hole by the water, we placed him in the ground and I covered him with earth and placed stones on top.

                      We said the following prayer:

                      "Dont be afraid, take courage. I AM here."

                      (This is Jesus speaking in Mark 6.50)


                      We are still grieving the loss, but the moments of sorrow have lessened a bit over time.


                      As for the loss of a loved one or friend, I highly recommend:

                      Journeying through Grief - Stephen Ministries

                      Author: Kenneth C. Haugk

                      It is one of the best Christian books on this topic. Read the authors biography!!!


                      Anyways, dear Cynthia,

                      May the love of our Lord Jesus Christ touch your heart and give you and your family strength and courage.

                      God bless you.

                      John
                      Jesus says: "Heaven and earth will disappear, but my words will never disappear." (Matthew 24:35)

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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by cynthia View Post
                        My dog, Nina-Jet, was doing sort of ok for an elderly dog. She was on medication for arthritis, for incontinence, and for seizures. Then, the first week of August, she had a bleed in her right eye. The vet gave me eye drops and said it was possible that it would clear up, if not, he would send us to an animal eye specialist. It started to get better, then another bleed, and it was obvious she was having headaches from the added pressure. So surgery scheduled to remove the eye. I have seen several dogs with only one eye, and they seem to adjust fine. This Tuesday, was the surgery, and she came through ok. But Thursday, there was a neurological complication, as she could not walk or eat. She seemed to be having a mild seizure that would not resolve with her medication. We took her to the vet Friday and he said there was no way to tell for sure without an MRI, it could be a blood clot or it might be severe dizziness that could clear up in a few weeks. But since her dizziness prevented her from walking, eating etc, it became clear to me that we must say goodbye. It was a peaceful passing.

                        We rescued her in June 2009, and the vet said she may have been 5 or 6 at that time, which made her 14. We had her DNA panel done several years ago, because we were so curious what breed she was. 100% pure Belgian Shepherd! She was a fine creature, bonded to me and I to her. I am so sad and anxious without her. With my previous dog, Ringo, I knew absolutely that it was time for him to go, but I still have haunting doubts about Nina-Jet, I keep thinking I could have done more. Many hot painful tears, as I recall her sweetness, her gentleness, her beauty in spirit.

                        This hurts so bad. All I can do is endure each hour of each day. Trusting in God that I did the right thing at the right time.
                        My Wife and I just had to put our boy Blue down this past Saturday night. And you are right...it hurts.

                        It was very sudden, because one month ago he was the picture of health for an 11 1/2 year old yellow lab. My wife took him to his regular vet appointment, and they said he was fine, though he had been diagnosed as being exposed to a tick disease (ehrlichiosis or something like that) and recommended putting him on an antibiotic, which we had done before when he tested positive for exposure. In about two weeks he began to thin, his ribs and backbone beginning to show, and we thought it was the antibiotic. Because he came out limping after being seen by the vet, I took him to another vet, and he doubled the dosage of antibiotics and said he should be feeling better by the end of the week. He wasn't. Took him back on Friday and he says stop the antibiotic and gave us a prescription for an anti-nausea medicine and said get a pro-biotic, which was a little infuriating for me because this guy was obviously guessing Saturday morning we took him to an emergency vet who did an ultra-sound and informed us he had splenic cancer (cancer of the spleen) but she wasn't qualified to read ultra-sounds so I needed to carry him to another vet who was, so they could tell us if it had spread or not.

                        It had.

                        We made the call to put him down because with our last dog. I couldn't do it. His (Jasper's) last hours were excruciatingly painful for him, as his organs began shutting down, and we didn't want Blue going through that. So I just want to tell you that you shouldn't beat yourself up for the decision, it was the right thing to do.

                        It is too soon for us to get another dog, but, this I know: it will help tremendously with dealing with the pain.

                        I like to think that our special friends will be there in Heaven waiting for us. I view God's abode, not as some wispy place of clouds and fluff, but far more substantial than our own universe, so why wouldn't we think there would be animals there? When a loved one passes that we know belongs to the Lord it's a little easier because we know we will see them again, but, we don't really have that certainty for our beloved pets. But why not? So I think about that when I think of him, and while it still hurts tremendously, I have at least a little hope to see my boy again.


                        God bless.
                        The Holiness of God is traumatic to unholy people (R.C. Sproul).

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