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  • Maxmus
    started a topic Mothers are Better. By a mile.

    Mothers are Better. By a mile.

    Although most folks are giving up on the myth that, for whatever reason, women are generally great and men aren't, there is one area where women are not only better than men, they are so much better it is odd it is rarely mentioned. I have nothing against women, but they, just like men, are regular, run of mill, booger pickers. They don't dwell in some super hyper moral atmosphere that represents all that is good. That is observable everyday. You just aren't supposed to mention it.

    But, women have one huge advantage over men and that is the ability to deal with, develop, and teach, children under the age of six. It is an innate ability and is often surprising to see. I read a paper the other day that indicated an enzyme, heretofore unknown, was found to be released into the bodies of women within 24 hours of delivery. I can't remember the source but I'll try and see if I can find it. Regardless, since I tried to deal with two toddlers on my own way back when my wife got an offer she could not refuse, I have some first hand knowledge. It ain't in me. That is, I don't know how to deal with the confusion, noise, and general chaos in such a situation. Ah, you say I could learn. Maybe you could but I couldn't. All I heard all day from the older one was "Mama!!!!!". I have seen other men try it. It is very hard for them. Even women without children seem to fumble a bit. But a woman who has a child has a way that is obviously superior in this regard. We may not like to say so, but it is there and is so obvious it is impossible to refute.

    Wait I found one general story and a reference is available from SA.

    https://www.livescience.com/1955-lov...hild-bond.html

  • Maxmus
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    Originally posted by backup View Post

    I'm confused. Those with the most faith seem to be the most anti-intellectual and dishonest.
    Why would you be confused. Just say those with faith seem to you to be the most anti-intellectual and dishonest? What's the problem with just saying it?

    One question: how do you determine those with "faith" anyway?
    Last edited by Maxmus; 07-14-18, 05:01 PM. Reason: Side saddle suplex

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  • Bluemayskye
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    Originally posted by Maxmus View Post

    That's good. My point is that women are naturally equipped to be mothers. Sure, some Dads do a great job.
    And I whole-heartedly agree! And because every human is not a exact clone of the other, some men do a wonderful job doing "women's" duties just as some women do a wonderful job doing "man's" duties. There is a spectrum of human that is absolutely not binary.

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  • backup
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    Originally posted by Maxmus View Post

    I agree. It is a big topic but a transparent one. All one has to do is look around to see reality. Thanks much!!

    The fruits of the Spirit are manifested by those with faith.
    I'm confused. Those with the most faith seem to be the most anti-intellectual and dishonest.

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  • Maxmus
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    Originally posted by christdependent View Post

    This is a complex social question. Some men put me to shame in terms of having an innate nurturing impulse when it comes to human babies. I attribute this to earlier exposure to the realities of having squalling children around me as I was growing up myself....but as a general rule, I do think women are gifted by God to nurture by nature.

    This plays out in other areas, where the extension of patience, mercy, long-suffering, kindness,......the fruits of the Spirit are desirable. In fact, I would say that the "mother" role as defined in your OP personifies those fruits of the Spirit.

    The older I get, the more I recognize that the major source of all human conflicts is the desire to control. It's all about power.

    To be truly concerned about someone else often means we must put them before ourselves, and often in ways we don't find particularly comfortable or self-exalting.

    That's the Christian way, methinks.

    And then there's the complementarian way, which God intends for a man and woman to be one.....so this is a big topic!
    I agree. It is a big topic but a transparent one. All one has to do is look around to see reality. Thanks much!!

    The fruits of the Spirit are manifested by those with faith.

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  • Maxmus
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    Originally posted by Bluemayskye View Post

    It may speak to my position on the gender spectrum, but I am a heterosexual father of three who was and is fantastic with kids, toddlers, and infants. I had the night shift feeding and changing the babies while my spouse pumped. Gotta team up for the love of your loved ones!
    That's good. My point is that women are naturally equipped to be mothers. Sure, some Dads do a great job.

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  • christdependent
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    Originally posted by Maxmus View Post
    Although most folks are giving up on the myth that, for whatever reason, women are generally great and men aren't, there is one area where women are not only better than men, they are so much better it is odd it is rarely mentioned. I have nothing against women, but they, just like men, are regular, run of mill, booger pickers. They don't dwell in some super hyper moral atmosphere that represents all that is good. That is observable everyday. You just aren't supposed to mention it.

    But, women have one huge advantage over men and that is the ability to deal with, develop, and teach, children under the age of six. It is an innate ability and is often surprising to see. I read a paper the other day that indicated an enzyme, heretofore unknown, was found to be released into the bodies of women within 24 hours of delivery. I can't remember the source but I'll try and see if I can find it. Regardless, since I tried to deal with two toddlers on my own way back when my wife got an offer she could not refuse, I have some first hand knowledge. It ain't in me. That is, I don't know how to deal with the confusion, noise, and general chaos in such a situation. Ah, you say I could learn. Maybe you could but I couldn't. All I heard all day from the older one was "Mama!!!!!". I have seen other men try it. It is very hard for them. Even women without children seem to fumble a bit. But a woman who has a child has a way that is obviously superior in this regard. We may not like to say so, but it is there and is so obvious it is impossible to refute.

    Wait I found one general story and a reference is available from SA.

    https://www.livescience.com/1955-lov...hild-bond.html
    This is a complex social question. Some men put me to shame in terms of having an innate nurturing impulse when it comes to human babies. I attribute this to earlier exposure to the realities of having squalling children around me as I was growing up myself....but as a general rule, I do think women are gifted by God to nurture by nature.

    This plays out in other areas, where the extension of patience, mercy, long-suffering, kindness,......the fruits of the Spirit are desirable. In fact, I would say that the "mother" role as defined in your OP personifies those fruits of the Spirit.

    The older I get, the more I recognize that the major source of all human conflicts is the desire to control. It's all about power.

    To be truly concerned about someone else often means we must put them before ourselves, and often in ways we don't find particularly comfortable or self-exalting.

    That's the Christian way, methinks.

    And then there's the complementarian way, which God intends for a man and woman to be one.....so this is a big topic!

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  • Bluemayskye
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    Originally posted by Maxmus View Post
    Although most folks are giving up on the myth that, for whatever reason, women are generally great and men aren't, there is one area where women are not only better than men, they are so much better it is odd it is rarely mentioned. I have nothing against women, but they, just like men, are regular, run of mill, booger pickers. They don't dwell in some super hyper moral atmosphere that represents all that is good. That is observable everyday. You just aren't supposed to mention it.

    But, women have one huge advantage over men and that is the ability to deal with, develop, and teach, children under the age of six. It is an innate ability and is often surprising to see. I read a paper the other day that indicated an enzyme, heretofore unknown, was found to be released into the bodies of women within 24 hours of delivery. I can't remember the source but I'll try and see if I can find it. Regardless, since I tried to deal with two toddlers on my own way back when my wife got an offer she could not refuse, I have some first hand knowledge. It ain't in me. That is, I don't know how to deal with the confusion, noise, and general chaos in such a situation. Ah, you say I could learn. Maybe you could but I couldn't. All I heard all day from the older one was "Mama!!!!!". I have seen other men try it. It is very hard for them. Even women without children seem to fumble a bit. But a woman who has a child has a way that is obviously superior in this regard. We may not like to say so, but it is there and is so obvious it is impossible to refute.

    Wait I found one general story and a reference is available from SA.

    https://www.livescience.com/1955-lov...hild-bond.html
    It may speak to my position on the gender spectrum, but I am a heterosexual father of three who was and is fantastic with kids, toddlers, and infants. I had the night shift feeding and changing the babies while my spouse pumped. Gotta team up for the love of your loved ones!

    Leave a comment:

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