Vladimir
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There is a Bill of Assertive Rights, in a book titled "When I say "NO" I feel guilty" by Manuel J Smith.
As I read this, I realized how contrary this is to the teachings of Jesus and Christian faith.
God/Jesus is the Judge, you are just a servant who must follow the Bible (as interpreted by the theologians/church leaders, or else, prepared to face severe consequences.)
Proverbs 3:5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; 6 in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.
Matt. 16:24 Then Jesus said to His disciples, “If anyone wants to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and be following Me.
Philipians 2:3 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, 4 not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.
How can you be assertive if you are to not trust your own understanding, to deny yourself, and to value others ABOVE yourself?
Heb. 13:17 Have confidence in your leaders and submit to their authority, because they keep watch over you as those who must give an account. Do this so that their work will be a joy, not a burden, for that would be of no benefit to you.
I think this pastor gets the Bible. But then, how can one be assertive when they have been brought up following the Bible as best as they can, and taught to question themselves before doubting the Bible?
“A BILL OF ASSERTIVE RIGHTS
I: You have the right to judge your own behavior, thoughts, and emotions, and to take the responsibility for their initiation and consequences upon yourself.
II: You have the right to offer no reasons or excuses for justifying your behavior.
III: You have the right to judge if you are responsible for finding solutions to other people’s problems.
IV: You have the right to change your mind.
V: You have the right to make mistakes—and be responsible for them.
VI: You have the right to say, “I don’t know.”
VII: You have the right to be independent of the goodwill of others before coping with them.
VIII: You have the right to be illogical in making decisions.
IX: You have the right to say, “I don’t understand.”
X: You have the right to say, “I don’t care.”
YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO SAY NO, WITHOUT FEELING GUILTY”
― Manuel J. Smith, When I Say No, I Feel Guilty: How to Cope - Using the Skills of Systematic Assertive TherapyAs I read this, I realized how contrary this is to the teachings of Jesus and Christian faith.
God/Jesus is the Judge, you are just a servant who must follow the Bible (as interpreted by the theologians/church leaders, or else, prepared to face severe consequences.)
Proverbs 3:5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; 6 in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.
Matt. 16:24 Then Jesus said to His disciples, “If anyone wants to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and be following Me.
Philipians 2:3 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, 4 not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.
How can you be assertive if you are to not trust your own understanding, to deny yourself, and to value others ABOVE yourself?
Heb. 13:17 Have confidence in your leaders and submit to their authority, because they keep watch over you as those who must give an account. Do this so that their work will be a joy, not a burden, for that would be of no benefit to you.
I think this pastor gets the Bible. But then, how can one be assertive when they have been brought up following the Bible as best as they can, and taught to question themselves before doubting the Bible?