Our works are filthy rags if not done with faith, that is scriptural fact. But making out one can be perfect when that is not the scriptural understanding of what perfect means, leads to depression and a sense of inbuilt failure. It is not spiritually or psychologically healthy which is what some RCs are promoting. Your leaders have not faced their demons, they are following the demons.When reference is made to our lives as 'filthy rags' and 'snow covered dunghills' there's a genuine cloud of despair there. No wonder those who view their lives in this way, desire to exist in an alternate self but I can't see that being either spiritually or psychologically healthy. Healing can't happen without facing our 'demons' and letting Christs grace transform us.
You should sit in at a Mass one day and really concentrate on what is being said and done. It is the ultimate meeting with Christ in thanksgiving for what He did for us.
I have sat in a mass more than once and I really concentrated on what was being said and done. Even following what the Latin meant. It is not the ultimate meeting place with Jesus at all.