Calvinism presents God in a negative light
The BIBLE teaches that God hates sin.
The BIBLE teaches that God hates sinners (Ps. 5:5, etc.)
The BIBLE teaches that sinners are deserving of nothing but eternal torment.
Yes, the BIBLE presents God in a very negative (relative to human sinners) light.
But it is wrong to reject the parts of the BIBLE you don't like, and trying to justify it by labelling it "Calvinism".
Yes very unloving at best.
No sinner is deserving of the love of God.
For God to love even ONE sinner is an amazing thing.
But God loves BILLIONS upon BILLIONS of sinners.
So for you to call that "unloving" makes you very unappreciative and entitled.
Yet Calvinist believe the non Calvinist just wants to exalt man but the objection to Calvinism is based on a desire to exalt the character of God
Wrong again.
It is CALVINISM which "exalts the nature of God", namely His holiness, His power, His longsuffering, etc. etc.
It is objection to Calvinism which DESTROYS the character of God, by trying to castrate the attributes that you don't like, and to try to inflate other attributes past what God Himself intended.
When as an Arminian, I finally came to the undeniable recognition that Calvinism was Biblically true, I was absolutely crushed as sinner. And God became a million times holier than I had ever imagined. And because His holiness increased a million times, His grace to save such a wretched sinner increased a millionfold as well.
What an AWESOME God we serve!
What a GRACIOUS God we serve!
What a LOVING God we serve.
I think it is a mistake for Arminians to judge God's love by "how many" sinners He loves. I think the proper way to gauge God's love (not that we have any right to even do so) is by judging it by the DEPTHS of His love for any wretched sinner.
And for anyone to say that such a God is "very unloving", IMO doesn't even KNOW the God of the Bible.